Dirty Talk for Beginners: What to Say in Bed (Without Sounding Awkward)

Dirty talk is the cheapest, fastest way to make sex hotter - and the thing most couples are too shy to try. The good news: you do not need a script, a sexy voice or a porn vocabulary. You need three simple habits.

Why dirty talk works

Your brain is your biggest sex organ. Words make your partner picture what is about to happen before it happens - and anticipation is what gets people wet and hard.

How to start (the 3-step warm-up)

1. Describe what you feel. “You feel so good.” “I love how wet you are.” Simple, true, impossible to get wrong.
2. Say what you want. “Slower.” “Don’t stop.” “Kiss my neck.” Directions are dirty talk too.
3. Tell them what you are about to do. “I’m going to take my time with you.” This is where the heat really builds.

30 dirty talk lines to try

Soft and teasing

• “I’ve been thinking about this all day.”
• “Come here. I want you closer.”
• “You have no idea what you do to me.”
• “Take it off. Slowly.”
• “I love the sounds you make.”

Bold and direct

• “I want to fuck you right now.”
• “Tell me exactly how you want it.”
• “Don’t you dare stop.”
• “Beg me for it.”
• “Look at me while I do this.”

Questions that turn them on

• “Harder or slower?”
• “Where do you want my mouth next?”
• “Do you like it when I do this?”
• “What have you been fantasising about?”
• “How close are you?”

Find the words your partner loves

Everyone has a word or phrase that flips a switch. The fastest way to find it is to ask - outside the bedroom, when nobody is on the spot. Our Dirty Talk Digital Sex Tablet does this with ten wild questions, including “What’s one dirty word you want to hear me moan?”

What if it feels awkward?

Laugh. Seriously. Laughing together is intimacy too. Start with whispers - they hide nerves and sound ten times hotter. And agree up front that any word that turns someone off gets dropped, no hurt feelings.

Try it tonight

Pick one line from each list above. Use one during foreplay, one during sex and one after. That’s it - you are officially someone who talks dirty.